I would say I’m sorry for not posting in a couple of days, but frankly, I’m just too tired for guilt. Between working and my caregiver gig the past several days, my usually snarky self is just plain pooped. But this week’s experience has inspired me to write about a subject I’ve had an issue with for a while now. Aren’t ya’ll lucky?
We’ve all seen the posts and videos made of family and friends, all doped up on pain medication after a surgical procedure. I may be in the minority here, but I’ve never found them funny, and this week it struck me exactly why I don’t.
My daughter had all four wisdom teeth removed this past week. Hers wasn’t an easy extraction; the way her teeth were placed – she had roots growing into her sinuses among other serious problems – required an oral surgeon. She was under the influence of some pretty heavy medications during the procedure, and is on more medications now.
My daughter wasn’t exceptionally loopy, just very chatty. Ironic, I know given her mouth was so sore. We had joked about it prior to the procedure – the video blogging I mean. But it didn’t even cross my mind to take footage of her discomfort. I was too concerned over her wellbeing. Then, it dawned on me; what a spectacular invasion of privacy to video someone on medication and then publish the video. Granted, my daughter knows I write about her in my blog, but we agree on what I can and cannot publish.
No matter how loopy or goofy she had been, my cell phone would have stayed right in my pocket. Seriously; who DOES this? She needed me the most at that moment in time. She needed to know that she could count on me to take care of her and especially that I would never post anything embarrassing for the world to see, for her friends and complete strangers to make fun of, or even to look back on and remember how uncomfortable – how downright painful – the day had been for her.
I suppose some of the people in these trending videos may have given permission beforehand. If they didn’t, though, what does that say about the person videotaping? With friends like that, who needs enemies? What about the parents gleefully posting pics of their small children all doped up? Is this cute, or creepy? Or worse, does it show an inherent meanstreak?
Now I certainly will make a mental note of my daughter’s ramblings, and maybe even bring them up at a future date to ensure compliance in some matter or the other. (Never said I was perfect, folks!) But to post a video of it on Facebook? No thanks. The only reason to post it would be for laughs or attention. I guess I don’t really find that sort of thing funny. In fact, I find it kind of mean.
What do you all think of the trend of posting these types of videos? Feel free to comment; as for me, I need to go. Good old Chipmunk Cheeks is asking for some soup.
I agree 100%. I don’t find that sort of thing funny either.
Glad it’s not just me! To me besides being just plain mean, it’s a serious breach of trust (if it’s done without permission).
I remember why my mom laughed AT not with me after I had my wisdom teeth extracted. As a teen I felt helpless and humiliated. Luckily this was way before cell phones and Facebook!
Yeah, that’s never a good thing for anyone to do, but a parent? Makes it so much worse. I’m sorry you went through that. But you’re right, at least there isn’t everlasting footage.
When my mom … Not why…
I totally with you !
I’m sorry to hear about your daughter’s discomfort. The only tiny little bit of solace I can offer is that it’s so much better and easier to have them removed when young. I was in my late 40’s before I had it done (in four stages) and besides buying a couple of people new BMW’s, it was so, so seriously not fun. This too shall pass.
As for the surreptitious recording (videotaping? filming?) of the unaware and unconsenting for purpose of embarrassment and humiliation? To do that to a loved one when they have no control or say in the matter is an incredible invasion of their privacy and breach of their trust. Makes me want to bring back public flogging. Let them record THAT and put it on YouTube.
(On the other hand, if you can or need to record someone in a position of authority being abusive of that authority then put it on the news or the Internet, swing for the fences! That’s a civic duty in my book – radically different moral situation.)
A common phenomenon/dilemma among the general population.
I wouldn’t do the filming either. Yet a post like yours shows what a great Mom you are and this was blog worthy!!
I agree with you. Posting pics would not be cool. 🙂