I hate people. You guys know that. And as much as I hate people, one might also assume I am not a charitable person. I wouldn’t blame you for taking that leap. However, you would be wrong. Ha! Plot twist! Didn’t see that coming, did you? You probably thought I was related to Scrooge or something. Nope, nope, and nope.
While I don’t have much, I give back whenever and however I can. I donate my time to animal advocacy and other humanitarian causes, and every year I donate to Toys for Tots and the children’s mitten/hat tree at my local social services. I do what I can when I can.
But, admittedly, for the most part all I want is to go about my day and be left alone. Like today, for instance. I had to go to the store for some last-minute Christmas odds and ends, and while there, decided to get a coffee. The Salvation Army bell-ringer, who I liken to the Jehovah’s Witnesses in so many ways, was there, as they have been since Thanksgiving.
The most I get from the nice, older woman who rings her holiday bell is Good Evening, Merry Christmas. And me, I say Thank You and Happy Holidays to you as well. Pleasantries exchanged, we go back to our respective business. It’s all very amiable if not standoffish. I’m fine with that. Happy with that, in fact.
Today, there was a gentleman ringing the bell, and he stood inside the little vestibule where the carts are instead of on the sidewalk outside the door. As I was leaving the grocery store with my bags and latte in hand, I guess he felt the need to share his um… ardent … opinion on my egregious financial – and charitable – decisions.
To make a long rant short, apparently if I have money to buy a latte, I have money to give to the Salvation Army, and by doing otherwise, I should be ashamed of myself. Now, this last bit, if I’m honest, made me smile a little. I mean, I’ve had much better people than him lay a guilt-trip on me, so his repartee fell somewhat flat.
I will interject here to say that if you donate to the Salvation Army, great, good for you — truly. Personally, their beliefs, as an organization, are contrary to mine and because of that, I specifically will not donate to them. Even if I had cash in my pocket (which I never do – I’m a card-carrying consumer) I would rather drop it into the “save the animals” jar at the vet or the “buy coats for kids” bucket at the hardware store than give it to the Salvation Army. But again, that’s just me. To each their own with regards to charity.
Like many things in life, charitable giving is a very personal choice.
However, to be perfectly frank, even if it were an organization I do support, I’d be hard put to dig into my pockets after being confronted in such a manner.
I know the bell ringers are paid, I’ve seen the want-ads. Whether or not they work partly on commission, I have no idea. Maybe that’s what prompted this gentleman to approach me the way he did. Maybe he needed a caffeine boost of his own. Maybe he was just feeling snarky. Who knows. I do wonder, though, if he approached any men in the same way he did me. Would he have had that same desire to belittle and shame a man?
I suppose I could have been a tad more altruistic in my response. Truth be told, I’m just a little tired of greeting rudeness with complacency and a smile. My kids weren’t with me (they never let me do anything), which left my tongue free to wag and wag it did.
Hopefully the conversation went the way of the one I had with the Jehovah’s Witnesses who visited my home way-too-early Christmas morning last year. If so, I’ll either be on their list to never approach again or I will be on their prayer cards until the end of time. I guess either one is fine with me. Though I do fervently hope it is the former.
lol! bah humbug indeed! I wont donate to the salvation army either!
Me neither and what a…jerk. I feel exactly the same way you do.
the bell ringer needs to step up his guilt game.
All the dunning from every group on earth is one of the top items on my hate it list for this season. I consciously do not support any group that can’t be at least original enough to run their fund raising at some other time of year. And the calendars, labels etc. given free are proof the have money to throw away and don’t need mine.
I’m a charitable and forgiving soul (REALLY!! What’s that look for?) so in such a case I would probably say something like, “Excuse me?” Maybe I misheard. Maybe he was talking to someone else. Maybe…
Maybe he’s bright enough to realize how bad he’s screwed up and he wants to back down. Usually the glowing red eyes will get that reaction.
If not, then I start with a range of anatomically improbable suggestions and warm up in both volume and timbre to the physiologically impossible.
That’s the problem with us today – to quick to go for the easy F-bomb without appreciating the language arts displayed by the likes of Robin Williams, George Carlin, and Steve Martin (think the famous scene in “Roxanne”).