Life With No Regrets

I know I’ve mentioned my book club a few times, but much like my family, they offer so much material! The other day, a member asked a question that I personally had a very hard time answering. Other members were ready with a quick retort – most in the affirmative, which, once again, left me shaking my head… since you know, it’s a book group.  I know you’re frothing at the bit to hear the question, so here you go. They asked, “What books do you regret reading?” I know, right!?

I felt as though they might as well ask, “What air do you regret breathing?” I was, however, in the minority. Apparently, people regret reading quite a bit.

Now, you might be thinking of those heavy books, the ones that stick with you for life. And I mean emotionally weighty—not those insanely thick, must-have-on-you-at-all-times textbooks we got in school. I mean the ones that you carry in your heart. The ones that put you in a bad way if you think too much about them. The ones where you learn about the harsh realities of the real world.

The ones where the dog dies.

Even though these books don’t make us feel warm and fuzzy inside, they have value. They teach us something. Maybe we learned about the atrocities of WWII; the holocaust, the bombings of Nagasaki and Hiroshima, the Japanese concentration camps in America. As horrific as it is to accept, we learned something about humanity in all this history.

Or maybe the heavy book taking up space in your heart is fiction. Maybe the main character, the little girl you were rooting for, the girl burdened with unimaginable pain and sadness, the girl who shows compassion and strength, the girl who feels so real, dies at the end of the book. And you are heartbroken. And you are so moved by this, you are sobbing and letting tears run down your face and onto the pages. Reading can transport us into worlds where we are free to feel and express our emotions — good and bad.

How can you regret anything that makes you feel? Makes you learn. Makes you open your mind. Makes you grow.

Now you might think, “Well, what about a book you hated? One that was just bad.” Ahhh, but that wasn’t the question. This was a question of regrets. Bad writing is bad writing, but even then, regret reading? I don’t think so.

Reading, no matter what it might be, helps us to engage critically with ideas. Reading informs us in so many ways—not just by presenting facts like those heavy textbooks from a soon-to-be bygone era. It helps us to practice forming our own opinions. It gives us the gift of expanding our language, our imaginations, and even our aspirations.

No matter what the book is about, who it is written by, or what genre it falls in, reading a book is like taking a walk. By the end, you’re somewhere else. And even if we didn’t enjoy the journey, we saw something new.

So, instead of having an answer in my book club discussion, I only had another question: Can you really regret reading a book?

5 thoughts on “Life With No Regrets

  1. I highly regret reading the Twilight series. So much trash, and not good trash. Horrible writing, horrible messages, just horrible. Adds no way in any form to anyone’s life, unless you want to just allow random stalkers into your life.
    The only good that came out of me reading the series is to be able to tell the lost souls who liked it that yes, I did read the crap and that is why I am so against these books. I suffered reading them and I really wish they were never written.

  2. I avoid some books, mostly ones that would submerge me in more vicious, ugly human behavior than I already encounter in too much of the daily news. I suspect I might regret reading them if I did do and the result was a total trashing of my ability to get up to face another day of looking for the bright bits of life.

  3. I have an issue, probably stemming from my lack of available books as a child, with stopping a book before it gets read, no matter how boring or awful it is. I can only think of one in many years, and it’s an award-winning middle volume of an award-winning trilogy, so it’s not quite abandoned, it just got relegated to the back of the toilet in the spare bathroom for when I get stranded there and my phone battery dies…

    Regret, though? I’m with you, I don’t think I can conceive of the idea of regretting reading a book. The really, really good books that I get totally caught up in and lose sleep and steal an extra few minutes at lunch at the office because I have to know what comes next? Those I regret getting to the end of because I want more, but that’s about as close as I get to regret!

  4. This was a brilliant write! I was so sad after reading Marley and Me by John Grogan but as you said, all books have something to learn from and while it was heartbreaking, it was also quite insightful and beautiful.

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